Grief is often in the body. Yoga guides us back into our bodies. Here we can invite the grief to take up space. To surge. To recede. To flow. To be.
We will practice finding resources in our bodies to anchor our attention to so we can move and be moved without fear of becoming overwhelmed with sensation or emotion.
Through movement and stillness we will visit the same places in the body grief visits. The intention is not to fix, but to create space and awareness for grief to move in and to move out. To find the pockets of love hiding behind the hurt. To nurture a harmonious sense of being full of life and full of loss.
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Sue Knight Deutsch
After a loss, the sense of not knowing which way to turn can make navigating the healing journey of transformation confusing and exhausting, often with feelings of despair, anger, fear, loneliness and disbelief. Questions arise:
- How will I make it through the day?
- How can I move forward?
- Who is here for me?
- Am I safe?
- What meaning does life hold now?
- Will I ever be happy again?
- How can I find support?
Resilience is the ability to bounce back in the face of difficulty and adversity, and can be learned. Sue brings years of experience from her chaplaincy, counseling, teaching, and her own grief journey as well as research-based principles of positive psychology, to teach resilience. In this workshop, you will learn how to discover your signature strengths and use them to envision and create a life of meaning and purpose to move forward through your loss, and thrive. Meditation and breathing techniques will be taught along with other coping strategies to take home with you, as well as prompts for journal writing, storytelling, and discussion, offering the opportunity to find the answers to questions from within and create change. All you need to bring is yourself.
Determining and accepting your grief style through writing, and storytelling
Suicide widow, mother, and published author, Michelle Miller shares with your her unconventional grief methods and how she came to terms with being a "bad" widow.
In this interactive workshop, she will help you learn to accept your own unique grief style through writing and sharing with others in a non-judgmental environment.
Michelle will lead you through brainstorming activities, and creative writing technique that she has found to be successful and cathartic in chronicling her grief experiences. No prior writing experience necessary!
- Rollover 401(k) Mistakes unnecessarily cost folks excess taxes and reduced lifetime income,
- Order of Withdrawals-Selecting which accounts to draw down, or liquidate and in what order may be your single biggest decision; making the optimum choices will reduce the risk you’ll outlive your nest egg, especially given increased longevity.
- Failure to Limit Risk as well as not Integrating Taxes, Savings & Insurance into a Well-Oiled Financial Plan causes undue anxiety because you have to save MORE, just to stay even.
In this workshop we will explore how men and women process their grief and the importance of sharing our story and how sharing your story improves your influence and leadership connections. We will discuss and answer the following questions:
*Loss took something from you. Can you take something back from loss?
*Loss and leadership – what is the connection?
*Leadership is not a title; it is the ability to influence.
*Whom do you have influence over in your life today?
*How can humility come from loss and transform a leader?
*How can processing your grief alter your influence on those around you?
*What does sharing your loss with ATV (Authenticity, Transparency and Vulnerability) create?
*How do you find the courage to share your story and process your grief?
*What is the difference between men and women and how we share our grief?
Tom will share his personal journey through loss and how processing his grief, enabled him to parent his two daughters with empathy. Tom will also share how grief ultimately changed his leadership style by becoming an empathetic leader.
When your person was sick or when your person died, did you find yourself scrambling to get necessary bits of information or documents? Were you kicking yourself that you weren’t better prepared ahead of time? Now that you know what it’s like for loved ones, there’s no better time to make sure that scrambling and lack of preparation doesn’t have to make things worse. Come talk about the entire array of things you need to get in place now to protect yourself and your family – financial, legal, and healthcare (including easy steps that few people know about). Discover ways to pass on your wisdom, life lessons, and legacy, not just your money. Finally, learn how to make sure everything you or your family might need is securely stored in one accessible place. Lift a huge burden off your family and yourself. Maintain as much control as you can. Prepare for what you know will happen, what you hope will happen, and what you hope will never happen, so you can rest more securely and focus your energy on life and living.
This is an experiential yoga workshop that explores how grief moves through the body and how we can facilitate or impede its ability to flow freely.
You will learn:
- why grief moves through the body
- where grief is often held in the body
- how to navigate grief in a safe and anchored way
- scientific and traditional perspectives on emotions in the body
- how to scan your own body for where your grief might be on any given day
This workshop includes slow, full-body movement. We will be exploring and integrating the concepts and techniques in our own bodies with yoga and mindfulness.
Note: This is Part 2 of a 2 Part series. Attending both is recommended but not required.
Being a parent is hard enough but when we lose our parenting partner, the challenges can be overwhelming. We just can't be in two places at one time. What was once a familiar routine can seem like chaos. Our children may act out or regress in their typical development. There may be difficulties with extended family members. Then of course there is the grief in its many forms: sorrow, anger, a glimpse of hope and then back into the darkness again. And trying to hold it all together, to be strong, for the children we love and are now solely responsible for. There are so many decisions to make and we can feel very alone.
Well, you are not alone. There are others who are walking along beside you. Together, we have strength, resilience and hope.
This class will bind us together in our parenting journey and discuss issues that are common to the experience of widowed parenting. We will laugh together and maybe even cry together. And we will learn together as we focus on practical, time-tested, evidence- based tools and techniques for calming the chaos and raising resilient children.
Part Two will discuss how to:
- Gain cooperation with chores, homework, etc.
- Put an end to power struggles, arguing, whining, and complaining
- Set limits and enforce them without anger, frustration, nagging, lecturing or giving in
- Talk with your children about difficult issues
- Raise confidant, resilient kids with good coping skills and hope for the future
Lisa’s message is: "You can do it!" After this informative and entertaining workshop, you’ll walk away with immediately applicable tools, a lighter step, and hope for the future.
Do you wonder how loving another person after becoming widowed is possible? Are you trying to figure out how loving someone new is possible when you love your deceased partner so much? Have you wished for the opportunity to ask people who have re-partnered about how to manage anniversaries of deaths and marriages, pictures and mementoes and those deep grief moments? Would you just like to meet some real-life couples whose relationships include at least one widowed person?
Join a panel of couples who are living and loving through being widowed and re-partnered for honest conversation, lots of laughter and a chance to ask all your burning questions!
As we build a life for ourselves after the death of our spouse or partner, many of us are questioned about our dating status as if having a new person in our lives proves that we are capable of happiness. But happiness, contentment and the rebuilding of a meaningful life doesn’t have to include a new love interest. Let’s talk about creating a life you love based on your interests, your talents, and the following of your heart to discover new life passions and new paths towards being peacefully, and perhaps blissfully, single.
Join Janine Eggers for a spirited discussion about travel, adventure, following your heart and building a life you love that doesn’t necessarily include a new partner.
When you've been widowed, it’s easy to feel like you’re going crazy. You feel like you aren’t “yourself”, you don’t understand what is happening to you, and many of those around you don’t either. To top it off, you make people uncomfortable, so you can’t be honest about what you’re going through and it can be very difficult to get adequate support.
Come for this interactive session. Learn from an expert in the field of grief, loss, and transition who has also been widowed. Find out about the grief process, especially the difference between what we’ve been taught and the reality of the experience. Learn how crazy “normal” can really be, and pick up some helpful images that might assist others in understanding. Look at what “healing” really means over time, and some steps that help you get there. Share your stories along the way.
No matter where you are in your grief process, come be affirmed, informed, and inspired.
We know we need to do it, physically move our bodies. Go for a run, walk, do yoga., etc. To move is to be alive. Our heart pumps, lungs expand and contract, eardrums vibrate. Thoughts and emotion motivate (or immobilize) our bodies. The body requires movement. Still water stagnates; a moving river cleanses itself. A stagnant body becomes the home of depression and illness, imbalance. A moving body restores itself. Moving can awaken our senses, the mechanism of how we make “sense” of our world, our relationship to it, to people. If we have been actively blocking sensory information to avoid feeling pain, we have also blocked the sensation of and capacity for joy. No matter what our physical state or fitness level is, movement is essential for health, for change, ability to “show up” for ourselves, family and friends, and for dancing through life.
So how do we move, how do we begin, or on those days when we are physically and emotionally depleted, how do we get motivated? How do we find time? Hint: there is music involved, perhaps friends, and other effective tools and concepts. In this workshop (really a playshop), you will learn:
How easy, natural and fun (in case you have forgotten) moving your body, mind and spirit with music is, no matter your physical or fitness state.
Seven steps that get you moving, strengthening your mind/body/emotion connection, and how these steps apply to moving your life forward.
Movement energies that help you take charge of your life: creative expression of dance, precision and focus of martial arts, and functional awareness of healing arts.
To reconnect with sensing, how the body speaks to us.
Two powerful, yet easy- to- remember moving meditations to ease stress and tap into the ever- abundant energy of life surrounding us.
To witness and acknowledge emotion, noting the presence of joy that sits alongside grief and loss.
Please wear clothing that allows comfortable movement. EVERYbody welcome.
Understanding Various Forms of Grief Shame & Practical Ways to Keep Memories Alive
And one day, it hit me like a ton of bricks.
I felt shame. A lot of shame.
I felt shame when I talked about Michelle, and I felt shame when I didn’t talk about Michelle.
I was embarrassed to grieve the way that I needed to grieve and I was embarrassed to love the way that I needed to love.
What I would quickly come to realize is that many widows and widowers feel shame when it comes to how much they talk about, or do not talk about, their late spouses.
During this workshop I will discuss the different ways that ‘Grief Shame’ can affect us and how we can work through these feelings.
I will also share common sense (and creative) ways to keep the memories of our loves alive and well.
Join me and let’s begin the process of kicking grief shame to the curb while we explore options to preserve the beautiful memories that we shared.
Soon after becoming widowed, I found myself being kindly encouraged by friends to go hiking. They had known I enjoyed it at an earlier time in my life, and offered up ideas of what to try. What I thought was going to be times with friends, turned out to be hundreds of miles of hikes by myself. It became a microcosm of life: starting anew, experiencing new places, interesting characters along the way, and ending in total exhaustion, and wanting it only to end. But then, a few days later I’d be plotting another adventure.
Wanderlust is a common trait I’ve run into with those who are widowed. For some its road trips, and for others its international travel. Wisely done, we have an opportunity to find ourselves, or better, to appreciate the love within ourselves in these adventures. For me it isn’t just the wandering that healing, it is being immersed in nature. And for that, sometimes nature is just outside your door.
By sharing some of my near and far adventures, I hope to explain how all of this can be so healing; whether its planting potatoes in your garden, or hiking breathlessly over a windswept mountain pass. The healing comes in emotional, physical and spiritual ways.
Now, lace up your boots…
Have you been thinking about dating, but not sure if you’re ready or don’t know even where to begin? Or can you tell horror stories about the few dates you have had? Is all you want just to meet a great person and settle down again?
In this entertaining and informative workshop, author Abigail Carter will share her own experiences as a widow with over 10 years of post-loss dating experience (yup, she’s an expert!) and provide you with a variety of practical understanding when it comes to the world of dating.Dating after loss is wrought with pitfalls: How to drop the “I’m widowed” bomb; when to have the first kiss or first sleep over; how soon to involve the kids? This workshop will help you to sort through some of these dating pitfalls and help you:
- Understand the stages of post-loss dating
- Get over the guilt and emotion of dating again after your loss
- Provide practical tips to getting out into the dating world for the first time.
- Avoid the pitfalls of internet dating and noticing those “red flags"
- Write a winning profile
- Become skilled at sorting, screening and testing internet dates
- Identify important safety tips (for your profile and when meeting an online date)
- Envision the type of relationship you are looking for
- Understand the role of sex in post-loss relationships
- Sort out your level of comfort for firsts: kissing, sex, involving kids, co-habituating, marriage
- Overcome feelings of rejection and the resulting renewed sense of loss and grief
- Use your dating experiences to learn about yourself and your intimacy needs
Dating after loss is a huge, frightening step towards moving forward with your life, but one that can be filled with fun adventures, new friends and true love. It’s time to get over the fear and find the thrill of dating again.
With grief, "the only way out is through", and for me, the only way through is with humor.
Stand-up comedian and writer Kelley Lynn will take you on a ridiculous ride through grief, using the best coping mechanism she knows - laughter. With an energetic style and witty sarcasm, Lynn's workshop will feature an interactive experience, that is tailor-made for this audience. Part stand-up comedy, part-therapy, and part-education, Kelley will combine personal stories, with a warm and scientifically proven explanation, of why laughter is healing for the soul.In this presentation/workshop, Kelley covers topics well-known to the widowed world, such as: the "incredible disappearing act" from your friends and family, the ‘phone call” with AT&T and other service providers, the hilarious reactions from the non-widowed to a place cal
led “Camp Widow”, and well-meaning but insensitive comments from the outside world; including the one that inspired the title for her original One-Act Play, and upcoming book: "My Husband Is Not a Rainbow." In addition, Kelley will leave you in stitches with her classic (and true) story of showing signs of “widow brain.” With her brutally honest delivery and warm persona, Lynn will leave you feeling inspired, hopeful, and smiling. Sign up and laugh the grief away.
“PUT ON YOUR OWN OXYGEN MASK BEFORE ASSISTING OTHERS”
Join us for an informational, inspirational and interactive workshop focused on the A to Zs of successful solo parenting! Using framework from the A2Z Healing Toolbox Guide, attendees will receive positive and practical tips, tricks & tools for raising healthy children (from baby to teen) suddenly solo. In this session, you will: 1) Learn simple ways to harness the power of organizing your family supports and examining your parenting positives. 2) Discuss the importance of gathering family-friendly healing tools such as animals, books, laughter, pictoral journals, memory jars, scented candles, worry boxes and volunteerism. 3) Brainstorm unique solo parenting ideas with those who have children of the same age. By healing and helping ourselves, we heal and help our children. Widowed Parents Rock!
In 1995 Nancy Saltzman was at home when she got the call that no one ever wants to get. She learned that her husband and two sons had died in a small plane crash in bad weather in Colorado. In her memoir, “Radical Survivor” Saltzman writes, “Even in — especially in — my darkest moments, I had to keep reaching up and grabbing the life preserver.” In this session participants will hear Saltzman’s story, discover how she overcame unbearable tragedy by grabbing her life preserver, and what constituted the elements of her life preserver. Workshop attendees will learn how to define and use their own life preservers to help them with their journey through loss.